Philippians 4:8

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things

This verse is probably the most powerful verse in my tool belt (they are all powerful, but this is the one I return to most frequently).  I struggle with my thought life so much.  At times it frustrates me because I feel like I should be able to just flip the switch and end the struggle.  Yet, this is not how we as humans opperate.

As women, I think it is so easy for us to read into situations and behaviors more than what is truly there.  For example, we have one couple in our church that after every service, they rush out of church (they are also usually one of the last to arrive).  I have tried to visit and get to know her on several occassions, even inviting to take her to lunch.  Yet, each time I feel like I am met with  a cold shoulder and the answer of I'm too busy.

It never fails, I always start wondering "Have I said or done something to offend her."  This has been my battle since we moved here, and one that I am fairly certain is just because of being such a small church.  In a larger church in the city, I would believe that she was just too busy.  We also probably would not notice as much the quickness with which someone left the church each week.  Since this started, I have been quoting this verse over and over to myself and reminding myself to believe her and to focus on what I know to be true.  I have examined my relationship with her, and I do not believe that I have wronged their family in any way.

And now, this week I have been encouraged.  On two different occassions she has shown interest in my children and visited with them.  Even picked one up and giving him a hug when he was being goofy.  I was greatly encouraged by this.  I am trusting God to bring to light if their is an issue between us, and if not, I have to accept that this may simply be her personality and busyness of life. 

By focusing on what I know to be true, it gives me freedom from the worry and anxiety of second guessing my actions and my words.  Isn't God's Word wonderful!  It gives us the tools we daily need to live a life of godliness.